• Qualified Coaches vs Unqualified Coaches photo

    Qualified Coaches vs Unqualified Coaches

    There are many thousands of ‘coaches’ out there who have never been trained to coach, have never been coached themselves and who have absolutely no idea where to begin or indeed where to end.

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  • Self acceptance photo

    Self acceptance

    How we see ourselves is frequently completely different from the way others see us. That doesn’t mean that how others see us is wrong, but we can judge ourselves very easily by what we perceive other people think. This ‘self judgement’ can distort our view of ourselves.

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  • How did I know I had low self-esteem? And how did I change that? photo

    How did I know I had low self-esteem? And how did I change that?

    Low self-esteem manifests itself in a variety of ways, and I should know I have been there.

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  • Stress – what is it? photo

    Stress – what is it?

    Have you set yourself goals that you want to achieve? If so, are they actually achievable? And more importantly are they really necessary?

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  • Is it time to change your style? photo

    Is it time to change your style?

    By getting rid of any unflattering clothes, the way is cleared for a new, improved you. A careful reassessment of what you wear is a truly transforming experience.

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  • Self-esteem photo

    Self-esteem

    When your self-esteem isn’t it tact, it has been diminished by constant reminders that you are worthless, useless and nobody wants you, you feel frightened and vulnerable. You are open to the challenges life brings but as they breeze in they knock you over and you feel incapable.

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  • Do you always need to defend yourself? photo

    Do you always need to defend yourself?

    The abusive or aggressive person often wants you to defend yourself or explain yourself. This is abusive behaviour, controlling, demeaning and only you can decide if you are willing to tolerate it.

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  • How to experience ‘happiness’ photo

    How to experience ‘happiness’

    Being happy doesn’t depend on a particular outcome or something happening to you. There isn’t somewhere you can go and find happiness sitting there waiting for you.

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  • Your Ideal Self and Life photo

    Your Ideal Self and Life

    The first part of the self-concept is your “self-ideal.” Your self-ideal largely determines the direction in which you are going with your life. It guides the growth and evolution of your character and personality.

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  • Get out of your own way photo

    Get out of your own way

    It is amazing how often we can get in our own way without even being aware that is what we are doing.

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  • Friends come and go photo

    Friends come and go

    I was considering why it is that friends come into our lives and some of them go out of our lives again. There are many and varied reasons I suspect, but for me I think that some people fall away because of the changes I have made to myself.

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  • Rebuilding Self-esteem photo

    Rebuilding Self-esteem

    When your self-esteem isn’t it tact, it has been diminished by constant reminders that you are worthless, useless and nobody wants you, you feel frightened and vulnerable. You are open to the challenges life brings but, as they breeze in, they knock you over and you feel incapable.

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  • Reducing overwhelm photo

    Reducing overwhelm

    Have you ever looked at your ‘To Do’ list and thought that your head would explode? The list is so long it covers 2 sheets of paper and you are in a state where you are not functioning because your brain has decided that it can’t cope and is turning you into a gibbering wreck.

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  • Relationship anxiety photo

    Relationship anxiety

    Relationship anxiety is very destructive, as you know. If you don’t learn how to get rid of anxiety in your relationship, it leads into a very devastating downward spiral:

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  • Perception photo

    Perception

    As far as I know there is no secret recipe for happiness or contentment.

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  • The terror attack on 22nd March 2017 in London photo

    The terror attack on 22nd March 2017 in London

    I looked on in horror at the television reports of the terror attack on Westminster Bridge in London. T

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  • Forgiveness - releasing the past photo

    Forgiveness - releasing the past

    Forgiveness is such an important subject that I feel compelled to spend some time explaining its significance. When we hold something unforgiven inside, we are nurturing anger, hatred and resentment or maybe even guilt.

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  • Cause and effect photo

    Cause and effect

    How do you live your life? Do you live it at cause – or do you live it at effect? And what does that mean for you?

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  • Disrespect photo

    Disrespect

    I am shocked at the amount of disrespect there is for people of all ages by those who are deemed ‘professionals’.

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  • How to survive Valentine’s Day as a single person photo

    How to survive Valentine’s Day as a single person

    Take advantage of you and really look after yourself on this day. Turn the focus of your attention to you.

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  • We are conditioned both deliberately and accidentally throughout life photo

    We are conditioned both deliberately and accidentally throughout life

    As we go through life we learn a vast amount of things, and we start from the very moment we are born (some say before we are born, and they may well be right).

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  • Conquer the fear of failure photo

    Conquer the fear of failure

    Fear of failure is probably the single, greatest obstacle to success in our adult lives. We become totally preoccupied with seeking approval and not making a mistake.

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  • Friends and family who sap your positive energy photo

    Friends and family who sap your positive energy

    The people with whom you have the most contact and who hang around you will have either a positive or negative effect on your levels of self-esteem and confidence.

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  • How to have a stress free Christmas photo

    How to have a stress free Christmas

    We all know that Christmas can be stressful. There is the usual invasion by the family, and extended family, the standing on ceremony all day, the extra expense as well as time and frustration trying to get the Christmas dinner on the table on time.

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  • Impacting lives photo

    Impacting lives

    A year ago I verbalised that I intended to impact the lives of a million people and help them to become the authentic people that they are.

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  • What I have learned from business coaches photo

    What I have learned from business coaches

    Over the past past four years or so I have worked with several business coaches. Each one is extremely successful in their field and each one has taught me something. Interestingly, what I have learned from them is exactly the same.

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  • Are all ‘conferences’ the same? photo

    Are all ‘conferences’ the same?

    I remember going to my very first ‘conference’. It was marketed as a Coach’s super conference where I would learn from a plethera of ‘world famous’ coaches and come away with lots of useful information.

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  • Do you always need to defend yourself? photo

    Do you always need to defend yourself?

    Living with people who are verbally abusive or verbally aggressive can be very demanding on your time and energy. But does it have to be that way?

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  • Getting rid of stuff can be good photo

    Getting rid of stuff can be good

    I was looking through my folder of coaching stuff that I have collected over the years. It was all contained in a folder that had 50 clear A4 sized pockets, and it was crammed with information.

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  • The future is in your imagination photo

    The future is in your imagination

    I was reading a post that a friend created on Facebook. I am going to call her Anne. It went something along the lines of she had to travel to London on the train tomorrow and there will be a strike. She made up this scenario of thousands of people trying to cram themselves onto a train to get into London.

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  • Why, what, how and what? photo

    Why, what, how and what?

    Why would you want to work with me? I have over a decade of experience as a coach and mentor and have worked with an amazing array of people from all walks of life.

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  • Have you ‘neglected’ YOU over the summer? photo

    Have you ‘neglected’ YOU over the summer?

    There has never been a better time to get serious about YOU! You probably think that you would like some help re-focusing.

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  • Writing a book photo

    Writing a book

    I have been amazed by the ‘success’ of some authors who have become number one best selling authors with each book they have written.

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  • How do I know I have low self-esteem? photo

    How do I know I have low self-esteem?

    Low self-esteem manifests itself in a variety of ways, and I should know I have been there.

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  • Stress - what is it? photo

    Stress - what is it?

    Have you set yourself goals that you think you want to achieve? If so, are they actually achievable? And more importantly are they really necessary?

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  • Learning to slow down - Stop and smell the roses photo

    Learning to slow down - Stop and smell the roses

    Sometimes we are so busy that we rush through our days and lives, and we fail to notice the simple beauty of living.

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  • Allowing your reality to be photo

    Allowing your reality to be

    There are times when we notice something about ourselves, our relationships and indeed our whole world that we feel needs to change.

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  • Making time for YOU! photo

    Making time for YOU!

    My clients often tell me that one of the added benefits of coaching they hadn’t considered before they started, is that their coaching session can often be the only time in a busy week that they feel able to step back and truly focus 100% on themselves. Hand on heart, how often could you say that you allow yourself to do that?

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  • Celebrating success photo

    Celebrating success

    Have you ever noticed how terrible we can be at acknowledging what we have achieved? When congratulated on a success, we might hear ourselves say “oh it was nothing”. On reaching a goal, we might skip the celebration because there is something else to strive for now. When reviewing a half completed ‘to do’ list, we’ll bemoan what we didn’t do, rather than focus on how much we actually achieved.

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  • My self awareness photo

    My self awareness

    When I was in my teens, and even up to my early 40s, I had very little self awareness. I plodded along doing what I was told to do, manipulated by so many people. I was so totally not self aware I didn’t even notice that I was living my life on other people’s terms.

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  • Fast forward a year photo

    Fast forward a year

    Have some thoughts about how would you like to see yourself in a year’s time? Do you see yourself exactly the same as you are now, or with some slight changes or perhaps with a whole new feel and look?

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  • Desire photo

    Desire

    What do you desire in your life? Do you get a sense that something is missing?

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  • Who are your teachers? photo

    Who are your teachers?

    We learn all the time through various means – at school, college, university, from neighbours, friends, relatives etc. Who have been your teachers over the years? My teachers have been my parents, my primary school teachers, my senior school teachers, college tutors, my cousins, my children, my grandchildren, colleagues, my friends, my mother-in-law, my husband, myself and strangers.

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  • Thought photo

    Thought

    As far as I know there is no secret recipe for happiness or contentment. The people who move through life joyously have not necessarily been blessed with lives of abundance, success and prosperity. These people do have the ability, however, to take the circumstances they’ve been given and make them into something great.

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  • Putting ‘You’ first photo

    Putting ‘You’ first

    Do you remember travelling on a plane? If you do, you have probably heard the instructions of the cabin crew reminding you to put on your own oxygen mask before helping anyone else with theirs. This advice is often told as a story for self-care because it expresses accurately why it is so important.

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  • Shopping in charity shops – Is there a stigma? photo

    Shopping in charity shops – Is there a stigma?

    When you walk along most high streets you will find several charity shops. There are those that raise funds for animals, those that raise funds for research, those that raise funds to aid people, those that raise funds for a hospice or hospital. All are for good causes and are usually well supported.

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  • Can you enjoy Valentine’s Day as a single person? photo

    Can you enjoy Valentine’s Day as a single person?

    There is so much emphasis on love and marriage leading up to Valentine’s Day and on the day itself. There are adverts everywhere and shops are full of gifts, treats and cards all specifically for this occasion.

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  • Your accomplishment diary photo

    Your accomplishment diary

    A great way to remind yourself how good you are is to keep an accomplishment diary. It is a smart tool to remind yourself just how good you are and what you have to be thankful for and pleased about in your life right now.

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  • You are great! photo

    You are great!

    One of the most well known confidence building exercises is to list your own strengths and natural abilities. By looking at the list you will be able to say “Wow, I really am good!” It is a true reflection of your abilities.

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  • Improve your body language, improve your self confidence! photo

    Improve your body language, improve your self confidence!

    The way that you move your body, and how you walk has an enormous effect on the way that you feel and affects your confidence levels.

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  • Learn to say “NO” – listen to your innate wisdom photo

    Learn to say “NO” – listen to your innate wisdom

    How do you respond when someone makes a request you’d prefer not to accommodate? Do you find yourself saying yes, even though your authentic self want to say no?

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  • A different conversation photo

    A different conversation

    I remember there were ‘models’ to learn, such as GROW – Goal, Reality, Options, Willingness. There were SMART goals – Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Relevant, Time-bound. There were hierarchies such as ‘Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs’. Techniques such as NLP – Neurolinguistic Programming.

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  • Energy sapping people photo

    Energy sapping people

    The people with whom you have the most contact and hang around will have either a positive or negative effect on your levels of energy, which can also affect your levels of self-esteem and confidence.

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  • Coaching with the Three Principles photo

    Coaching with the Three Principles

    Even though people have different goals, aspirations or areas in their lives which they want to change, you will create space for peace and clarity, while your understanding of life deepens.

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  • Refocusing after setbacks photo

    Refocusing after setbacks

    How many times have you thought you were getting through a life trauma, or you are in the aftermath, and then you hit a setback and it seems that you went back to the way you were?

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  • Confidence Secret Agent 008! photo

    Confidence Secret Agent 008!

    Are you ready to have some fun? Are you ready to go beyond enemy lines in the line of duty for queen and country?

    Ok, ok I know I’m getting carried away – how about completing another confidence building exercise instead?!

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  • Are you holding on to things you ‘should’ do? photo

    Are you holding on to things you ‘should’ do?

    Are you carrying around with you a lot of emotional baggage that you could be doing without? If you were to lose that emotional weight you could be focusing on something more productive instead.

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  • How do you see yourself? photo

    How do you see yourself?

    It is interesting that with most people, everything they do on a day-to-day basis is affected by them comparing their activities with their view of their ideal qualities and then striving to behave consistently with them.

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  • Are you living the life of your dreams? photo

    Are you living the life of your dreams?

    I have a really important question to ask you. You owe it to yourself to stop what you’re doing for a moment and really think about it…Are you living the life of your dreams?

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  • Taking time for YOU! photo

    Taking time for YOU!

    My clients often tell me that one of the added benefits of coaching they hadn’t considered before they started, is that their hour long session can often be the only time in a busy week that they feel able to step back and truly focus 100% on themselves. Hand on heart, how often could you say that you allow yourself to do that?

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  • Removing stress with coaching photo

    Removing stress with coaching

    Why is it that all we seem to hear about these days is stress? Why does it seem to pervade everything we do?

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  • What makes you laugh? photo

    What makes you laugh?

    I was considering this the other day. There are so many things that make us laugh, whether it be a quiet chuckle or a full blown belly laugh. Frequently there is something that makes us really smile or laugh.

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  • Improve your body language, improve your confidence! photo

    Improve your body language, improve your confidence!

    The way that you move your body, and how you walk has an enormous effect on the way that you feel and affects your confidence levels.

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  • Your assertive rights photo

    Your assertive rights

    In your continuing journey of rebuilding your confidence as the real you, it is essential that you implement your assertive rights so that your life is as happy as it can be.

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  • Dealing with emotional and psychological abuse photo

    Dealing with emotional and psychological abuse

    I discovered that emotional abuse came from several directions. It came from my first husband who, for years, told me that I was not clever, no use at ironing his shirts, not like his mother, not good enough to be part of his family….. and so on, and on he went.

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  • Sometimes I have feelings of inadequacy photo

    Sometimes I have feelings of inadequacy

    Sometimes I have feelings of inadequacy and of not being good enough. I am not sure where they come from but I sometimes wake up feeling that way. I remember one such occasion, I went to a breakfast business networking meeting, one I went to every Thursday morning at 7am, which meant getting up at 5am to be showered and dressed ready for business by 6.15am at the latest. Then a 10 mile drive.

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  • Be a surfer – riding the incoming waves of information photo

    Be a surfer – riding the incoming waves of information

    No sooner have we made a decision on what to eat or how to think about the universe than a new report, video or book comes out confounding our well-researched opinion.

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  • Your wedding day - do you have to conform? photo

    Your wedding day - do you have to conform?

    There is pressure to have the right wedding dress, the right venue, the right wedding breakfast, the right buffet, the right music, the right wine/champagne, to invite the right people and so on.

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  • Do you have relationship anxiety? photo

    Do you have relationship anxiety?

    Relationship anxiety is very destructive, as you know. If you don’t learn how to get rid of anxiety in your relationship, it leads into a very devastating downward spiral:

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  • Looking after YOU first photo

    Looking after YOU first

    How do you respond when someone makes a request of you and it really is not something you want to do? I suspect you try and search for an excuse, such as I am busy that day, I have to wash my hair…..and all these excuses seem very lame to you. And so you say yes, against your better judgement.

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  • Why do people stay in abusive relationships? photo

    Why do people stay in abusive relationships?

    There are many, many reasons why women and men don’t leave an abusive relationship. Often it is because they don’t realise that they are being abused. They think it is normal. I know from experience that I believed the emotional, psychological and financial abuse I suffered was normal.

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  • Do you look good on the outside, but inside you are crumbling? photo

    Do you look good on the outside, but inside you are crumbling?

    Wouldn’t it feel wonderful to get beyond these feelings to a calmer and more positive place.

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  • Reclaim your power photo

    Reclaim your power

    There is an innate awkwardness to being human. With each decision we make, there is always the potential for self-doubt, and it is this self-doubt that forms the root of our insecurity.

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  • Set goals that stretch you, but that you can achieve photo

    Set goals that stretch you, but that you can achieve

    With the year a quarter of the way through already and the distant memory of those abandoned New Year resolutions, you may well be demoralised into thinking that goals cannot be achieved easily.

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  • Chill photo

    Chill

    Stress as we all know is a killer. And yet still the number of people suffering from it continues to increase. In the UK it is estimated that work-related stress is responsible for six million days of sick leave a year.

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  • Why we must care for ourselves photo

    Why we must care for ourselves

    So many of us focus so much on caring for others that we forget all about caring for ourselves. But when we don’t take the time to care for ourselves it can be extremely damaging to our health.

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  • Give yourself permission to simply be photo

    Give yourself permission to simply be

    I have discovered that frequently the elation that we feel when we have learned an important lesson, achieved a goal, or had a huge breakthrough can be met with a period of downtime afterward.

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  • Maggie Currie in the hot seat photo

    Maggie Currie in the hot seat

    In this latest blog post, Maggie speaks to writer and presenter Clancy Walker. They chat about life, loves and many challenges along the way…

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  • Do you really know what will it take to make you happy? photo

    Do you really know what will it take to make you happy?

    Being happy doesn’t depend on a particular outcome or something happening to you. There isn’t somewhere you can go and find happiness sitting there waiting for you.

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  • The SELF Retreat photo

    The SELF Retreat

    Get to know your REAL self. Focus on you for 3 days. Rediscover what you really love to do. Enjoy working through the challenges you face in a supportive and collaborative environment.

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  • What are your perceptions and beliefs? photo

    What are your perceptions and beliefs?

    You are not truly aware of what someone else’s reality really looks like, and they are not truly aware of what your reality looks like. You are only aware of your own reality and how it looks to you.

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  • How to change your behaviours photo

    How to change your behaviours

    All this sounds pretty negative, doesn’t it? Well it really isn’t. Knowing all this is positive as it now means that you have the power to change things, and you can now be well on the way to making your reality what you want it to be, instead of what your subconscious thinks you want it to be.

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  • Do you know where your beliefs and values come from? photo

    Do you know where your beliefs and values come from?

    Whether you realise it or not, you are constantly in the process of creating and changing your reality.

    You are not truly aware of what someone else’s reality really looks like, and they are not truly aware of what your reality looks like. You are only aware of your own reality and how it looks to you.

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  • Are you really conscious of your thoughts? photo

    Are you really conscious of your thoughts?

    You are constantly barraged, from the minute you open your eyes and ears in the morning until the minute you close your eyes and ears at night, with information – facts and figures, fiction, half-truths, music, news, stories, half-heard conversations, pictures and images.

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  • Finding my emotions and feelings photo

    Finding my emotions and feelings

    A few years ago I was working my way through a relationship programme and my fabulous coach, Heather Williams, and I discovered I had a block.

    We discovered I couldn’t express my emotions or feel my feelings in a way that I felt is right for me. Having been brought up from a very early age to not show anger and not allowed to show emotions it had become a habit which was now time to break. As a child I was also told that I should be seen and not heard. I was working on unblocking my emotions and feeling my feelings.

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  • The SELF workshop – the aftermath photo

    The SELF workshop – the aftermath

    The SELF workshop went very well. There were around 26 people in the room and all seemed to learn something, whether that was about themselves, their situation or their future plans.

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    Are you a slave to mental conditioning?

    Are you being held back by mental conditioning without even knowing it?

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